Down to earth people dating for singles
Well this is because you either are not defining singles correctly or simply have not looked at your membership demographics (or the demographics of your area).
In most large cities in the US, single adults are out numbering the married’s.
After several years of serving on various single’s ministry leadership teams as well as starting my own, God called me to help others do the same.
Specifically to help reach the church, the pastors and staff; to educate and provide resources so that ALL churches would know how to reach singles.
You have to learn how to keep your ministry going by growing leaders, expecting turnover, and change. I need to just focus on the traditional families like mine.
I know it so much easier to just focus on what you know versus what you don’t know. I have never been married nor have children, yet I continue to have them cross my path as I lead singles. You build a team, a staff, and/or hire a pastor or director that does care and understands single adults. I realize hiring a pastor or director does cost money.
As a result, I have found that most churches simply did not know much about us nor how to reach us.Single adults range from the 18 year old that still lives at home to the 29 year old single parent who has never been married to the divorced dad with grown kids to the 58 never married now taking care of their mom to the 68 widower who lives alone. 1) Look at your existing membership/attendance rolls and see who is not married.It’s not that you don’t have single adults in your church or community; it’s how to reach them. Categorize by age, past marital status, if they have kids that live at home or grown, etc.You may find out you have a lot of single mom’s or widows.Depending on what you have the most of could determine whom you try and reach and how to minister to them.My first thought is…”and where would you like us to find a mate…in a bar?” My second thought is…”who is leading your singles ministry?It’s up to you as a church, as a pastor to get them connected to the whole body of Christ.It’s up to you to get to know and build a relationship with them.The same way it would be for any ministry in your church that may meet someone’s emotional and physical needs first. I lead the largest single adult leadership ministry in the country.My website has a ton of great resources to help you get started and keep going.